Nate and I knew we were ready for a baby right after we got married. The first few months of trying, we took the approach that everyone recommends. “Just have fun and don’t stress. It’ll happen.” But eight months went by and we started to get antsy. Somewhere in that timeline, I had a chemical pregnancy. I had no idea what that was – and was unaware that I was pregnant – until I went to an OB appointment to talk to them about TTC (trying to conceive) options. They had me take a pregnancy test and it came back positive, but my doctor explained that there was a high chance it wasn’t a viable pregnancy. You hear about miscarriages, but never chemical pregnancies.
I looked at that as an opportunity to find a silver lining in the situation. I try to do that with everything, because life can be hard and I think it’s a healthy mindset to have. Silver lining: I can get pregnant. I’m hoping that if someone who is reading this has suffered from a chemical pregnancy or miscarriage, that you find that somewhat comforting. I know I did.
At that same appointment, my doctor talked to me about Clomid. She told me to wait a bit and at our one year mark of trying we could talk about a plan. Fast forward a few months – I tried two (unsuccessful) rounds of Clomid. I then decided to buy a book off of Amazon so I could learn more about what was going on with my body. It’s called Taking Charge of Your Fertility by Toni Weschler. I read it cover to cover and learned SO much. The author explains the connection(s) between your symptoms and where you’re at in your cycle. It also includes a detailed chart that you can use to track everything. Charting is what helped me figure out that my cycle was much more irregular than I thought.
When I started searching for ways to regulate my body, acupuncture popped up. I bought a GroupOn near my house and made sure that acupuncture for fertility was an option at the treatment center I picked. I worked with my acupuncturist to create a plan that would target my concerns. She saw me once a week for five weeks and had me bring in my chart from Taking Charge of Your Fertility so we could see how my body was responding. She had actually never heard of that book before and said that using the chart was extremely helpful. During each session, she placed needles in areas that would help increase blood flow. After three appointments, I had a 28 day cycle (for the first time in years). A few weeks later, we got our positive test and met our Drakey Boy that following May. 🙂
Our TTC journey took us a little over a year and a half, but I know that some people wait much, much longer. I understand that some people wish it was as simple as trying Clomid or acupuncture, and for that my heart is with you. I’m sending all the prayers, love, and positive vibes I have to give. If you are still early on in TTC, please go in with an open mind and open heart — give acupuncture a try!